(A Story from a Caregiver)
It was more than five years ago, but it still seems like yesterday. I was getting ready for work in the morning when I got the call from my mother’s neighbor that there had been an incident and that she was taken away in an ambulance. I lived more than 30 minutes away by car, but I was at that hospital in no time. When the doctor finally told me that my mother had fallen trying to change a light bulb, he also mentioned that it was time to think about getting her a caregiver.
My first instinct was to be the one that would provide home care for her. I knew it would be a challenge, considering the distance, but I also knew that she needed someone and I was the logical choice. My brother lived on the other side of the country and he wasn’t going to be moving back here anytime soon.
The doctor mentioned that I could contact any number of home care providers and agencies within the area and they would be more than experienced and capable of taking care of my mother, but deep down, I knew that it should be me being there for her. I sat with her in the hospital room and thought about how I could make this work.
We found out that she would be moved to an intermediary facility, like a nursing home, for two weeks while her hip healed, to ensure that it would heal properly and to keep her from trying to do more than she should at this time.
During that time I spoke with my boss, neighbors and friends, and even my own family and no matter how I turned the situation around, I realized that there was no way that I could be my mother’s caregiver. It wouldn’t be fair to her to have a part-time, and on my convenience type of home care.
I didn’t know what to do and I was reluctant to have a stranger coming into her home. However, I followed the doctor’s advice this time, and called a couple of agencies in the area. I learned so much about the care that they could provide for my mother, and then when she was finally released from the nursing facility to go home, I knew that she would be in good hands.
Sometimes we want to care for our loved ones but simply cannot. When that happens, I learned that hiring a professional, experienced home care provider was always going to be the best option.