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Are You Providing Caregiving for a Loved One, and It is just TOO much for You?

By Greg and Hilary Eldridge

One Caregiver’s Question in Alpharetta, GA – Is It Time to Hire a Home Care Provider?

It’s normal for a family to reach the point where they realize they can’t provide all the care their elderly parent needs. They need some home care help. Does this situation sound familiar to you? Does your parent need almost constant supervision? Are his needs increasing weekly or even daily it seems? Is she leaving housework undone because it’s too much for her? Has he stopped cooking for himself because it’s too tiring or he’s too bored with doing it? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you may want to consider finding help at home for your loved one.

Start by assessing the home care needs of your loved one. If you have difficulty doing this, you can contact a home care agency to get a professional assessment done. Generally speaking, the categories are as follows:

  • Home care: includes laundry, shopping, cooking and some cleaning
  • Personal care: includes personal hygiene, bathing, dressing, eating, assistance with toileting
  • Emotional care: includes someone to talk to and have conversation with, companionship, doing some meaningful activities together
  • Health care: for those seniors who need it, includes medication management, physical therapy, and medical-related personal care and so on.

Making the choice of caregiver requires a few considerations. For example, would your elderly loved one be more comfortable to have a caregiver with the same language or cultural background? If personal care is involved, do they want the same gender?

You may have a lot of questions about what home care includes, what services would be provided, etc. The best way to get your questions answered is to contact the agency and ask.

What to do about the guilt trip

It may be difficult at first because the old guilt trip might be settling in. How can you leave her in the care of a stranger? Didn’t you promise you’d take care of her? Will she think you’re abandoning her? Won’t she be let down? Won’t you be let down? The guilt trip just won’t let go sometimes.

How do you get over the guilt? Consider this: sometimes it lies to you. It doesn’t always tell you the truth. For example, the guilt is telling you that you’re not taking care of your mom if you hire a home care provider. That’s lie #1. Hiring a caregiver to help you take care of your mom is actually providing her with the best care possible. It helps you to reserve some energy so you can take care of your family and your mom for a longer period of time without burning out. Lie #2 is that she won’t be in the care of a stranger because the new caregiver can come and meet your mom and get to know her a little bit before jumping into full-time or part-time care. Once they’ve known each other for a few weeks they won’t be strangers any more. It might even happen faster than that.

If you or an aging loved one are looking for senior care in the home, contact the caring staff at Home Helpers of Alpharetta. Call today (678) 430-8511