Part of being a caregiver involves making decisions about your loved-one’s care. Sometimes that even means you're making decisions when your loved-one can't provide her own input. That kind of situation can leave you feeling overwhelmed and at a loss about what to do for your loved-one.
Look at Every Angle of the Situation
The most important thing for you to do if you are having to make a decision for your loved-one without her input is to get as much information about the situation as you can. The more you're able to examine the situation from all angle, the more comprehensively you can look at what your options are.
Refer Back to Conversations You've Had with Your Loved-one
You and your loved-one may not have discussed every single potential situation, but you probably have a better idea how she might respond than you think you do. As much as possible, refer back to the conversations you've had and fit that information into what you already know about the decision you need to make.
Monitor the Situation and See if Your Decision Changes
Assuming that you have some time and you don't have to come up with a decision immediately, keep an eye on what is going on. The situation may change to such an extent that you feel that a different decision is actually more appropriate. That's perfectly normal and can be exactly what you need in order to come up with a solution that feels right to you.
Involve Your Loved-one as Much as You Can
When you can, keep your loved-one involved in the discussion and the decision process. There may be some situations where that isn't possible. Even if your loved-one can only help you with a portion of the decision making process, that can sometimes be enough to help you feel that you're on the right track.
Remember that you're doing the best that you can with the situation that you have before you. Don't beat yourself up because you haven't made a decision immediately.