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Caregivers Take Care! Avoid the “Would’a, Could’a, Should’a”

By Mary Lou Nowak

You are lucky, if you’ve made it through flu season and were not personally impacted.  Many were not so lucky or have needed to care for loved ones with the flu, especially the elderly.  Care challenges may cause us to reflect on what we as caregivers need to do to remain healthy and resilient when caring for others.

While some reflection on where we may fall short on self-care can be good when used to create awareness of changes needed, it can become very negative.  Self-criticism or negative self-talk does not help inspire change for anyone.  Instead of dwelling, let’s put on our Detective Colombo garb, take notebook in hand and become your own life investigator.  Use a notebook throughout the day to jot down what you are doing with your time every 30 minutes or so. You may be surprised how you spend your time.  Your perceptions may be very different than your findings, and this awareness can be the first step toward positive change.

There will be times we celebrate our accomplishments and times we fall short; that’s just part of our shared condition called “being human”.  Be as good to yourself as you would be to a friend who’s come to you in a similar situation.  Every day is a new chance to do more of what serves us well and less of what does not.  Reflection can be good but we don’t want to live in the “would’a, could’a, should’a” world.

Mary Lou Nowak is managing partner of Mid-South Home Helpers, serves as VP of Marketing and 2018 Professional Conference Chairperson at PNA