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How Can You Get Your Loved One's Family More Involved in Her Care?

By Denise Roskamp

Your elderly loved one's other family members can provide respite care for you, but they have to be willing and able to pitch in. If they've been reluctant, these ideas might help you figure out the root cause and get to a solution.

Ask Them What They Can Do

Some of your elderly loved one's family members may want to help, but genuinely have difficulty figuring out when they could help or what they could do. Their own responsibilities produce limitations that they may not be able to overcome. So start out by asking them what they can reasonably do for your elderly loved one.

Educate Them about Their Loved One's Health

It's entirely possible that some of your family members' perceptions come from a lack of knowledge about what is going on with your elderly loved one. You've probably tried sharing, but perhaps they have been too busy to listen. That's okay. Keep educating them about your loved one's health. It's also possible that they never fully understood your loved one's health conditions, so give them a chance to ask questions.

Consider Having Backup Available

Your loved one's other family members might help out a little more if they have a backup plan in place. They're not used to caring for your elderly loved one the way that you are, so that can be intimidating. In that case, hiring elderly care providers can help quite a bit. They're there to offer their help and their experience while your loved one's other family members can learn more and become more comfortable.

Respect Their Decision if it's Too Difficult for Them

If your loved one's other family members continue to resist, you'll have to respect that decision. Some people can't emotionally handle seeing an elderly loved one in poor health or in a position in which they need significant help. Everyone handles these types of situations in their own way and there's unfortunately not much you can do to change that. You can offer them love and support, however, until they're able to do more.

Working with your loved one's family can seem difficult at first, but often it's because they don't fully understand your loved one's situation. 

IF YOU OR AN AGING LOVED ONE ARE CONSIDERING ELDERLY CARE IN SUDBURY, MA, PLEASE CONTACT THE CARING STAFF AT HOME HELPERS TODAY. CALL NOW (508) 545-0164.