Senior Care Blog - Nampa, Caldwell, Emmett

Coping With Role Reversal

By Jeffrey Stoker

As our parents age, we may find ourselves faced with the challenge of role reversal. Taking on the task of decision maker can pose a dilemma, especially if we haven't yet had the conversation with our loved ones concerning how they'd like to spend their senior years. Though circumstances may not allow for each of their desires to become a reality, it's helpful to know what they would prefer. Having this type of discussion can be uncomfortable, but don't put it off before it's too late. Knowing and understanding their financial situation as well as where they would prefer to age, whether in their own home or a facility, is important. You can find a useful and informative article by clicking here and get the conversation started. Be sure to include siblings who may be sharing the same concerns and wanting to have this conversation as well. 
Listening to your parents' wishes is important, but so is voicing your own opinions and concerns. If you are worried that taking on the role of caregiver could put a strain on your personal life or health, be clear about the roles you're willing to take on. The Family Caregiver Alliance has an eyeopening document detailing the effects of family caregiving which can be found by clicking here. Take the information found into consideration when determining how you'll be involved and offer suggestions on ways to fill in during times when assistance is needed but you're unable to be there. Having the conversation now can lessen feelings of guilt or resentment as you may find yourself suddenly thrust into a role with such responsibility. By making all involved parties' expectations clear, it will be easier to remember that although our parents will one day need help, they will always be our parents.