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Explaining to Your Parent Why You Want to Start Senior Care for Them

By Vicki and Brian Day

Caregivers in Wind Gap PA

As a family caregiver for an aging adult one of the most important decisions that you will make is whether to start senior care for them. Hiring a senior home care services provider can be one of the best decisions that you can make for your elderly loved one, especially if you are a member of the sandwich generation. As you are managing the needs of your aging parent and those of your children, you might feel as though your to-do list is far too long for you to handle successfully. Starting senior care can be an effective way to ensure that your parent gets all of the care, support, encouragement, and assistance that they need even when you are not able to fulfill these for them. 

If you have decided that senior care is the right decision for your parent and will help them to live the quality of life that they deserve as they age in place, you already recognize the benefits. Your senior, however, might not be as receptive to the idea and may not understand why you have made this choice. Taking the time to explain it to them can help you to feel more confident about this decision and move into the next chapter of your care journey more smoothly and with less stress.

Use these tips to help you explain to your parent why you want to start senior care for them:

• Remain positive. Avoid letting this conversation become negative, upsetting, or focused on confrontation. Instead, maintain a positive attitude and stay supportive of your parent throughout the conversation. This will help them to stay positive and be more receptive to what you want to say to them as well as to being cooperative.

• Focus on the benefits. While your decision to start senior care for your loved one was likely based on the challenges and limitations that they have been dealing with, your conversation should not focus completely on these issues. Instead, focus on the benefits that senior care can offer them so that they can see that you want them to enjoy the care and what it can do for them.

• Ask for their thoughts. Even though you are the primary manager of your parent’s care, it is important to remember that this is your parent receiving care and that it is their thoughts and opinions that are truly meaningful in this arrangement. Talk to them about the types of challenges and limitations that they are dealing with and how they feel that they impact their life, as well as what they hope that care could accomplish for them. This will help them to start visualizing what life would be like with a care provider and keep them feeling in control of their life. This is also an ideal time for you to discuss the type of care provider your parent would prefer, such as whether they would want a male or female care provider and what type of schedule might work best for them.