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What Can You Do When You Feel Guilty about Not Spending Enough Time with Your Elderly Loved One?

By Vicki and Brian Day

Caregivers in Bangor PA

It's not uncommon at all for family caregivers to feel that they don't do enough or give enough to their elderly loved ones. The truth is that you can't always spend the time that you want with your loved one, but you don't have to feel guilty about that. Do something to change how you interact with your loved one.

Focus on Quality Time Rather than Quantity Time

If you're like most family caregivers, you have your own life to manage, your immediate family's lives to manage, and your elderly loved one to care for. You might even throw in a pet or two along with friends and other family members, while you're at it. The thing is, you only have a certain amount of time available to you, so at some point the quantity of time you spend with everyone may suffer, but the quality of the time you spend never should. Strive to make every moment a quality moment that really counts and the amount won't be an issue.

Make Meal Times a Priority

One way to work on making quality time a focus is to make meal times a priority. Sit down with the entire family, or just you and your elderly loved one, and enjoy a meal and conversation. Even if you don't talk about anything more complicated than the weather, you're spending time together while you nourish your bodies. That nourishes your soul, too.

Share Memories with Your Loved One

Find ways to share different memories with your loved one. This can mean talking about favorite childhood memories that you know and love or even talking to your loved one about things that happened long before you were born. Learn as much as you can about your loved one's life and history so you can share those stories with others.

Hire Home Care Providers for Companionship

Another way to alleviate some of the guilt that you feel for being too busy to always be the family caregiver that you want to be is to hire home care providers. They can provide companionship for your loved one when you can't be there. It's never good for your loved one to feel isolated and alone, so having someone else be there even when you can't can help to reduce those feelings.

Guilt is a wasted emotion, so turn it around and use it to take concrete steps that make a difference for both you and your elderly loved one.

IF YOU OR AN AGING LOVED ONE ARE CONSIDERING CAREGIVERS IN BANGOR, PA, PLEASE CONTACT THE CARING STAFF AT HOME HELPERS. CALL TODAY! (610) 365-4266.