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Making National Respect Day Part of Your Care Relationship with Your Aging Parent

By Ketan Shah

Elder Care in San Jose CA

September 19 is National Respect Day. This is an important day if you are an adult child acting in the role of a family caregiver for your elderly parent. Showing your parent respect and love throughout the course of your care experience is one of the most important and impactful things that you can do to help ensure that your care efforts are effective, and that your relationship remains focused not just on the care that you give, but the bond that you have as parent and child.

Let these ideas inspire you for ways that you can make National Respect Day part of your care relationship with your aging parent:

• Always talk to them. When your schedule is busy and you feel like you have far more things on your to-do list than you have the ability to handle, it can seem as though the best thing to do is just rush through your tasks and move on. In reality, though, you should always stop to talk to and spend time with your elderly loved one. This simple way of showing that you are thinking about them shows your respect for them as an individual and as your parent.

• Do not belittle them. No matter what challenges or needs that they are facing, never allow yourself to belittle your parent. Do not talk to them as though they are a child, or talk down to them. Speak to them with the same level of respect and care that you would if they were not dealing with those needs and challenges. Avoid using words that could be considered condescending, such as “potty” or “diaper”, and give them as much independence as possible.

• Maintain their dignity. It is possible that you will need to handle potentially sensitive tasks for your aging parent as they age in place. This can include toileting, bathing, dressing, and other tasks. When you need to handle these, do so with respect and dignity in mind. Never act appalled, disgusted, or frustrated with these tasks. Encourage your parent to do as much for themselves as they can, and then help them in ways that are sensitive and nurturing.

Starting elderly care for your aging loved one can be one of the best decisions that you can make in their later years to help them live the highest quality of life possible. This elderly home care services provider can be with your aging parent on a schedule that is appropriate for their specific needs, challenges, and limitations and create a personalized approach to their care and support that manages these issues. This ensures that your parent’s needs are met in a way that is right for them as an individual, and for your care relationship with them. This is especially true if there are potentially sensitive tasks that you do not feel capable of handling, or that your aging parent is not comfortable with you taking care of for them. The care provider can fulfill these needs in a respectful, supportive way so that you can feel confident that they are safe, healthy, and comfortable while focusing more attention on your other care tasks, your relationship with your loved one, and the other needs and obligations in your life.

If you or an aging loved one are considering hiring elder care in San Jose, CA, please contact the caring staff at Home Helpers today (408) 259-5930.