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New Mom Care - Coping

By Michele Scott

Your wildest dream has finally come true. You and the person you love more than anyone else in the world are parents. You have the most beautiful baby and you’re surrounded by family and friends. Everyone is happy – well, maybe not everyone. You appreciate the company, yet you long for peace and quiet. You wish everyone would leave you alone, yet when they do, you’re overwhelmed.

     It’s normal to crave alone time after giving birth. Post-partum feelings range from crushing love to threats of divorce. Caring for baby, maintaining a household, preparing meals, doing laundry and smiling every time someone comes to the door can be difficult. Your spouse or partner has returned to work, excited yet feeling pressured to provide financially. You have everything you need yet you feel something is missing. You are hungry, tired, could use a shower and the baby will not stop crying.  Even warm, fuzzy two parent households can turn toxic when a new baby arrives.

     The word you are looking for is “coping”. How do you cope with new obligations, new responsibilities and very little insight on what the next hour might bring? You don’t. There is no such thing as a “super new mom” who can be all things to all people. You can’t “bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan, and never let him forget he’s a man.” No new mom can. Synonyms for “cope” include manage, subsist and survive. Home Helpers New Mom Care can help.

     We are not family, relatives, neighbors or friends so a brave front will not be necessary. There are no expectations, responsibilities or obligations. We know what’s taking its toll behind closed doors. Our team of professionals will manage, so you can survive. As professional caregivers, we can help you channel the guidance, instructions and advice you received in the hospital. As outsiders, we can be more effective and productive, see the bigger picture and share years of experience and training.

     Coping in the last months of pregnancy can be just as challenging as post-partum coping. Researchers have found 80% of new moms consider divorce in their first four to six weeks post-partum. Spouses reportedly are more trouble than help, fail to understand or zone out when mom tries to explain. Unless post-partum depression or a behavioral disorder is diagnosed, adjustments are made and coping gets easier. However, things said and displayed behaviors linger in the minds of all involved. Home Helpers New Mom Care is the answer to a smooth transition and a healthy, happy, managed household throughout your adjustment period.  

     You deserve to enjoy the months and weeks leading up to delivery, and the days, weeks and months following childbirth. No new mom or mom-to-be should be forced to curb her feelings, emotions, mental and physical needs. The joys of parenthood are yours for the taking - coping is possible. Call us to learn more.