The loss of a spouse or partner is a life-changing event, but you don’t have go through it alone. Seeking support from a caregiver network is critical to helping you process your grief in the days, weeks and months that follow. Here are some ideas to consider as you begin your journey:
Your Grieving Process
While you may be familiar with the five stages of grief — denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance — your path will probably deviate from this model. Keep the following in mind:
- Your grief is unique. There’s nothing “right” or “wrong” about what you’re thinking and feeling.
- Grant yourself patience and time. Try to resist any pressure you might feel to “get over it” or “move on.”
- Keep your expectations realistic. Be kind to yourself, processing your loss in ways that make sense for you.
Friends and Family
Count on close friends and family members to care for and comfort you like no one else can. In addition to sharing your memories and tears, they can help you prepare meals, do laundry and complete paperwork. Friends and family can create a buffer that lets you grieve privately amidst floods of phone calls and personal visits.
A therapist or grief counselor can be a sympathetic partner at any point. Whether you’ve just experienced a loss or significant time has passed, professionals can help you process what’s happened and recommend resources to support your recovery. Furthermore, a mental health expert can maintain objectivity and grant you healthy perspectives on your grieving process.
Many churches offer grief support groups for community members who’ve lost a spouse or partner. Talking with and listening to others as they share intense emotions, daily struggles and small successes can help you feel less isolated. You may connect with a few people whose experiences closely mirror your own, forging new friendships as a result.
Adult Day Centers
When you’re ready to resume routines but want to be in the company of others, adult day service centers are a worthwhile option. In addition to providing regular meals and snacks, professional staff offer activities that help seniors socialize and create community. The National Adult Day Services Association features resources on choosing a center near you.
Local home care agencies may offer companion care programs allowing you to receive compassionate support at home. Professional staff can lend a friendly ear and keep you company as you’re experiencing the complexity of grief. Just having someone near can help you feel less isolated and alone.
Find Support at Home Helpers of Drexel Hill
We’re ready to help you connect with personal and companion senior care at any point in your grieving process. Contact us today for more information and a free consultation.