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Making the Tough Caregiving Decisions for an Elderly Parent

By Denise Roskamp

Home Care in Concord MA

Caring for an elderly loved one is not always an easy job. There may be times that you want to throw in the towel and others that will make you proud to be the family caregiver of your parent. Caring for an elderly loved one does not just mean watching them to make sure they are safe and healthy. You may also be expected to help them in the bathroom, bathe them, dress them, and drive for them.

Whatever your daily to-do list entails, following these tips will help you make the tough caregiving decisions without the added stress that usually follows.

  • Remember your motive. When you are feeling frustrated, guilty, angry, sad, or resentful, take a moment to remember the reason why you wanted to help care for your loved one. The senior is probably feeling many of these feelings to, but they do not have the option of walking away. Show some compassion for what he elder is going through and you should be able to get rid of many of these negative emotions.
  • Know your limits. If you do not have the time, energy, or resources to help the elder with another task, then don't. If you spread yourself too thin by agreeing to take on too many tasks, your stress may show in the care you are providing the senior. Ask family members or a home care provider to assist with the things you are not able to do.
  • Set boundaries. Without setting clear boundaries, your aging parent may unintentionally take advantage of your help. When beginning the caregiving role, lay out all of the things you are willing to do and those things you will not do. The senior will then know exactly where you stand instead of just guessing.
  • Take care of yourself. Practicing good health habits are not only important for the elder, but also for you. After all, you will not be able to care for them if you are sick. Get plenty of rest, eat a healthy diet, drink lots of water, and exercise regularly in order to continue being healthy.
  • Let the elder do it themselves. If they are still able to do so, let them make decisions for themselves. For example, let them pick what they are going to wear or help with household chores. These tasks may seem small to you, but will allow the elder to regain some of their independence.

With these tips, you will be able to offer the care your loved one is I need of.

Source:
http://www.joanlunden.com/category/3-caregiving/item/288-raising-an-aging-parent-deciding-what-s-best-for-you-and-them-by-dr-ken-druck

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